Surprisingly, it is often when wandering through the emotional carnage left by the worst of humankind that we find the best of humanity ad well.

With wine and food, the confidence of my own table, and the necessity of reassuring my wife, I grew by insensible degrees courageous and secure.

Whenever I think of something but can’t think of what it was I was thinking of, I can’t stop thinking until I think I’m thinking of it again. I think I think too much.

As it almost always was when I’d been too self-centered to see the truth of the matter, I felt impossibly foolish.

Definitions from Mulla Do-PiazaEmotionalist:A man or woman who thinks he has experienced the divine.

None should say: ‘I can trust,’ or ‘I cannot trust’ until he is master of the option, of trusting or not trusting.

While your ego is always trying to figure out its place in the world, your true self knows that your place is always right here, right now.

Persistent problems, however unpleasant they may seem, contain the unprocessed and unexamined thoughts and feelings that, if left alone, keep you from your greatness. That’s why the pain, emptiness, and longing you feel can be...

As a therapist, I have many avenues in which to learn about DID, but I hear exactly the opposite from clients and others who are struggling to understand their own existence. When I talk to...

A man who lies to himself, and believes his own lies, becomes unable to recognize truth, either in himself or in anyone else, and he ends up losing respect for himself and for others. When...

İnanç, kesin olmayışın kesinliğidir. İnsanın kendi görüş ve kavrayışının doğru ve kesin olduğuna inanmaktır; gerçekliğin ortaya koyacağı nihai sonuca inanmak değildir.

At night we sort the energy that by day we sense.

Spending longer thinking about the problem before you dive in is likely to lead to higher levels of creativity in the final product.

If you fail to believe you will procrastinate or become idealustic about how awesome you are at working hard and managing your time, you never develop a strategy for outmaneuvering your own weakness.

These were not people you could disagree with. If you disagreed, you were wrong.”Juliet Hopkins, Tavistock Institute, as quoted in Relationships and how They Shape Our Capacity to Love By Robert Karen

How hurtful it can be to deny one’s true self and live a life of lies just to appease others.

Moral matrices bind people together and blind them to the coherence, or even existence, of other matrices. This makes it very difficult for people to consider the possibility that there might really be more than...

It is a mistake to look at someone who is self assertive and say, “It’s easy for her, she has good self-esteem.” One of the ways you build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it...

There is nothing so whole as a broken heart.

How often – I continue reflecting – is it that we see what we want to see, rather than what is really before our eyes. In the trade we call this confirmation bias, and our...

The ORDINARY RESPONSE TO ATROCITIES is to banish them from consciousness. Certain violations of the social compact are too terrible to utter aloud: this is the meaning of the word unspeakable.Atrocities, however, refuse to be...

But I remember one thing: it wasn’t me that started acting deaf, it was people that first started acting like I was too dumb to hear or see or say anything at all.

I didn’t want a world in which I had to choose between blind human babies and tortured monkey ones. To be frank, that’s the sort of choice I expect science to protect me from, not...

If history is written by the victors, conspiracy theory is typically written by the losers, and there were few greater losers in the revolution than the French church and especially the Jesuits.

I compare myself with my former self, not with others. Not only that, I tend to compare my current self with the best I have been, which is when I have been midly manic. When...

Religion, with its metaphysical error of absolute guilt, dominated the broadest, the cosmic realm. From there, it infiltrated the subordinate realms of biological, social and moral existence with its errors of the absolute and inherited...

Mindfulness helps us get better at seeing the difference between what’s happening and the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happening, stories that get in the way of direct experience. Often such stories treat a...

Perhaps the greatest faculty our minds possess is the ability to cope with pain. Classic thinking teaches us of the four doors of the mind, which everyone moves through according to their need.First is the...

Anger is the immune system of the soul.

Social anxiety results from being around people who are resolutely opposed to who you are.

Crucially we haven’t been figuring out how to live in oneness, with the Earth & every other living thing; we have just been insanely trying to figure out how to live with each other, billions...

I” is the quality that arises when the therapist consciously moves out of his own way without hindering the therapeutic process through his own ideas, attitudes, expectations and concepts. He is present, available and responds...

The drive for power is even less logical than the sex urge . . . and stronger.

In reality, though, most of the time we don’t choose the best option—we choose the first reasonable option, a strategy known as satisficing.

Everybody sins, Francis. The terrible thing is that we love our sins. We love the thing that makes us evil.

The healthier people are, the more they are willing to admit to their limitations and so the more open they are to the possibility of improvement.

Denial is a useful defense mechanism until it’s not.

Those of us who work in the field of trauma and abuse, whether psychologists, psychoanalysts, social workers, doctors, counselors, or psychotherapists, have been provided with beautiful tools for understanding the impact of trauma. We become...

I can imagine that the oceanic feeling could become connected with religion later on. That feeling of oneness with the universe which is its ideational content sounds very like a first attempt at the consolations...

It looked as though you did not act in a certain way because you thought in a certain way, but rather you thought in a certain way because you were made in a certain way....

Normal’ ist zunächst, was zwei Leute dafür halten.

With practice, INTJs become skilled at nodding and making responsive noises at appropriate times,while internally wondering whether dolphins have language or thinking about how Star Wars breaksthe laws of physics.

We must understand that those who experience abuse as children, and particularly those who experience incest, almost invariably suffer from a profound sense of guilt and shame that is not meliorated merely by unearthing memories...

Praise & esteem can feel good, which is fine, but don’t look to them for inner peace & lasting happiness.

Sensation tell us a thing is.Thinking tell us what it is this thing is.Feeling tells us what this thing is to us.

I love you.” Difficult is to show it every day. Most of the things we need in life are simple, but not easy. But things that are difficult are often the most worthwhile!

Past and history are not the same. Past is what happened. It consists of events that affected the patient’s self, some of which he can remember, but the most he is having trouble remembering. History...

Když nás něco rozzlobí až do nepříčetnosti, nepřipustíme si, že příčina našeho hněvu nemusí spočívat jen mimo nás, ve věci nebo osobě, která nás rozzlobila. A tak svěřujeme věcem moc, jež nás může přivést do...

The manner of Demoivre’s death has a certain interest for psychologists. Shortly before it, he declared that it was necessary for him to sleep some ten minutes or a quarter of an hour longer each...

According to Madam Pomfrey, thoughts could leave deeper scars than almost anything else.