Love born in the brain is more spirited, doubtless, than true love, but it has only flashes of enthusiasm; it knows itself too well, it criticizes itself incessantly; so far from banishing thought, it is...

If you love another person, you have to become a no-self, a nothing. When you love, you have to become a nobody. When you are a nobody, love happens. If you remain somebody, love never...

Nothing is permanent in this world. Everything is changing, so no matter what problem or issue you are having inyour life at the moment, it would also change sooner or later but of course you...

It was strange to find that love does not spring from abundance and richness of the ego, but is a way out of inner distress and poverty. We were surprised to discover that our first...

If we want to truly live, at some point, we find the dark facts of psychic life demand our full attention.

Thus if we know a child has had sufficient opportunity to observe and acquire a behavioral sequence, and we know he is physically capable of performing the act but does not do so, then it...

Why is a caterpillar wrapped in silk while it changes into a butterfly? So the other caterpillars can’t hear the screams. Change hurts

She didn’t give a damn about some of them, but she had grown to learn that inattention can be a stratagem to avoid pain, and that it is often misread as shallowness and indifference.

The world didn’t stop because we weren’t in it anymore.

The emotional mind likewise transcends the facile and appealing dualism separating its psychological and biological aspects. Physical mechanisms produce one’s experience of the world. Experience, in turn, remodels the neurons whose chemoelectric messages create consciousness....

Normal’ ist zunächst, was zwei Leute dafür halten.

With practice, INTJs become skilled at nodding and making responsive noises at appropriate times,while internally wondering whether dolphins have language or thinking about how Star Wars breaksthe laws of physics.

We must understand that those who experience abuse as children, and particularly those who experience incest, almost invariably suffer from a profound sense of guilt and shame that is not meliorated merely by unearthing memories...

Praise & esteem can feel good, which is fine, but don’t look to them for inner peace & lasting happiness.

Sensation tell us a thing is.Thinking tell us what it is this thing is.Feeling tells us what this thing is to us.

I love you.” Difficult is to show it every day. Most of the things we need in life are simple, but not easy. But things that are difficult are often the most worthwhile!

Past and history are not the same. Past is what happened. It consists of events that affected the patient’s self, some of which he can remember, but the most he is having trouble remembering. History...

Když nás něco rozzlobí až do nepříčetnosti, nepřipustíme si, že příčina našeho hněvu nemusí spočívat jen mimo nás, ve věci nebo osobě, která nás rozzlobila. A tak svěřujeme věcem moc, jež nás může přivést do...

The manner of Demoivre’s death has a certain interest for psychologists. Shortly before it, he declared that it was necessary for him to sleep some ten minutes or a quarter of an hour longer each...

According to Madam Pomfrey, thoughts could leave deeper scars than almost anything else.

Now why should that man have fainted? But he did,and right across my path by the wall, so that I had to creep over him every time!

People who need to bully you are the easiest to push around.

The word ‘choice’ is a fraud while people choose only what they have been taught to choose.

When humility is exercised, people begin to realise that they do not, as it were, exist at all.

However gross a man may be, the minute he expresses a strong and genuine affection, some inner secretion alters his features, animates his gestures, and colors his voice. The stupidest man will often, under the...

To leave is to suffer,to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.

The law (of least effort) asserts that if there are several ways of achieving the same goal, people will eventually gravitate to the least demanding course of action. In the economy of action, effort is...

All writing problems are psychological problems. Blocks usually stem from the fear of being judged. If you imagine the world listening, you’ll never write a line. That’s why privacy is so important. You should write...

İnanç, kesin olmayışın kesinliğidir. İnsanın kendi görüş ve kavrayışının doğru ve kesin olduğuna inanmaktır; gerçekliğin ortaya koyacağı nihai sonuca inanmak değildir.

At night we sort the energy that by day we sense.

Spending longer thinking about the problem before you dive in is likely to lead to higher levels of creativity in the final product.

If you fail to believe you will procrastinate or become idealustic about how awesome you are at working hard and managing your time, you never develop a strategy for outmaneuvering your own weakness.

These were not people you could disagree with. If you disagreed, you were wrong.”Juliet Hopkins, Tavistock Institute, as quoted in Relationships and how They Shape Our Capacity to Love By Robert Karen

How hurtful it can be to deny one’s true self and live a life of lies just to appease others.

Moral matrices bind people together and blind them to the coherence, or even existence, of other matrices. This makes it very difficult for people to consider the possibility that there might really be more than...

It is a mistake to look at someone who is self assertive and say, “It’s easy for her, she has good self-esteem.” One of the ways you build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it...

There is nothing so whole as a broken heart.

How often – I continue reflecting – is it that we see what we want to see, rather than what is really before our eyes. In the trade we call this confirmation bias, and our...

The ORDINARY RESPONSE TO ATROCITIES is to banish them from consciousness. Certain violations of the social compact are too terrible to utter aloud: this is the meaning of the word unspeakable.Atrocities, however, refuse to be...

But I remember one thing: it wasn’t me that started acting deaf, it was people that first started acting like I was too dumb to hear or see or say anything at all.

I didn’t want a world in which I had to choose between blind human babies and tortured monkey ones. To be frank, that’s the sort of choice I expect science to protect me from, not...

If history is written by the victors, conspiracy theory is typically written by the losers, and there were few greater losers in the revolution than the French church and especially the Jesuits.

I compare myself with my former self, not with others. Not only that, I tend to compare my current self with the best I have been, which is when I have been midly manic. When...

Religion, with its metaphysical error of absolute guilt, dominated the broadest, the cosmic realm. From there, it infiltrated the subordinate realms of biological, social and moral existence with its errors of the absolute and inherited...

Mindfulness helps us get better at seeing the difference between what’s happening and the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happening, stories that get in the way of direct experience. Often such stories treat a...

Perhaps the greatest faculty our minds possess is the ability to cope with pain. Classic thinking teaches us of the four doors of the mind, which everyone moves through according to their need.First is the...

Anger is the immune system of the soul.

Social anxiety results from being around people who are resolutely opposed to who you are.

Crucially we haven’t been figuring out how to live in oneness, with the Earth & every other living thing; we have just been insanely trying to figure out how to live with each other, billions...

I” is the quality that arises when the therapist consciously moves out of his own way without hindering the therapeutic process through his own ideas, attitudes, expectations and concepts. He is present, available and responds...