The drive for power is even less logical than the sex urge . . . and stronger.

In reality, though, most of the time we don’t choose the best option—we choose the first reasonable option, a strategy known as satisficing.

Everybody sins, Francis. The terrible thing is that we love our sins. We love the thing that makes us evil.

The healthier people are, the more they are willing to admit to their limitations and so the more open they are to the possibility of improvement.

Denial is a useful defense mechanism until it’s not.

Those of us who work in the field of trauma and abuse, whether psychologists, psychoanalysts, social workers, doctors, counselors, or psychotherapists, have been provided with beautiful tools for understanding the impact of trauma. We become...

I can imagine that the oceanic feeling could become connected with religion later on. That feeling of oneness with the universe which is its ideational content sounds very like a first attempt at the consolations...

It looked as though you did not act in a certain way because you thought in a certain way, but rather you thought in a certain way because you were made in a certain way....

It is not how much money or luxury you avail a child that counts, but how well you nurture and raise the child to become useful, and a more productive individual in the society that...

To show how memory changes to fit our story, psychologists study how memories evolve over time: if your memories of the same people change, becoming positive or negative spending on what is happening in your...

It’s always easier to learn something than to use what you’ve learned. . . . You’re alone when you’re learning. But you always use it on other people. It’s different when there are other people...

The art of peaceful living comes down to living compassionately & wisely.

When you consider the superstitions and the imaginings of the old Cornish country-folk up to my grandmother’s day, how their lives were swaddled in them from the cradle to the grave, their daily actions in...

We do not escape into philosophy, psychology, and art–we go there to restore our shattered selves into whole ones.

Should’ assumes that when either willingness or ability is lacking, it may be compensated for by an abundance of the other. This is simply not realistic.

As a child I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not...

When people think about a placebo such as the royal touch, they usually dismiss it as “just psychology.” But, there is nothing “just” about the power of a placebo, and in reality it represents the...

‘Not spoiling’ a child means trying to break that child’s spirit.

Hatred and disdain do harm to the donor not the intended recipient…The Strength in Knowing —– by I. Alan Appt

When good people consider you the bad guy, you develop a heart to help the bad ones. You actually understand them.

…whatever God found worth creating we can find worth studying.

Saying of the ProphetDesireDesire not the world, and God will love you. Desire not what others have, and they will love you.

The colour of the water seems to be the colour of the glass into which it has been poured

Nothing gets transformed in your life until your mind is transformed.

Tantrums are seldom about the thing they appear to be about.

… [O]ne of the most influential approaches to thinking about memory in recent years, known as connectionism, has abandoned the idea that a memory is an activated picture of a past event. Connectionist or neural...

If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism.

Chronic trauma (according to the meaning I propose) that occurs early in life has profound effects on personality development and can lead to the development of dissociative identity disorder (DID), other dissociative disorders personality disorders,...

The attempt to escape from pain, is what creates more pain.

Stories serve multiple purposes. At a basic level they are great entertainment, which is essential for living a happy and healthy life, but on a deeper level stories help us explore issues that are otherwise...

It is awesome to note that the works your work are working but that should not be a joy. The ultimate joy should be that the works of your work are indelible.

Oh, you know what bloggers are like, they write and write and write. I don’t know why, because they’re not being paid.

People sometimes imagine that without desire there would be no enjoyment. The opposite is true. When you’re caught up in craving, you never really enjoy anything very much because your mind is always pulling you...

What tricks the mind is what the mind is glad to be tricked by.

Historians are great gossips at a high level.

When the only answer a little girl ever receives is no, from her parents or her teachers or her world, at some point she stops asking for what she wants. She begins to expect nothing,...

It is perfectly acceptable to have a physical problem in our culture, but people tend to shy away from anything that has to do with the emotions.

A word devoid of thought is a dead thing, and a thought unembodied in words remains a shadow.

Dogma is a defence against the brain’s capacity for free thought based on the fear that such thought might lead to a scary place.

The Element is about discovering your self, and you can’t do this if you’re trapped in a compulsion to conform. You can’t be yourself in a swarm.

We think of 1789 as the date of the French Revolution, and the storming of the Bastille as its defining event. Yet as late as halfway through 1792, most of the familiar images of the...

When you’re feeling insecure, you typically don’t notice the hundreds of people around you who accept you just the way you are. All you notice are the few who don’t. Don’t ever forget your worth....

Our immune system is evolving through trials of use in fighting illnesses and the bombardment of our modern world toxins and that this evolution not only engages the strengthening of the body and it’s T-Cell...

If you spend time with crazy and dangerous people, remember – their personalities are socially transmitted diseases; like water poured into a container, most of us eventually turn into – or remain – whoever we...

I never really grew up until I had kids.

The human mind is the most unreliable things in the universe. So control it.

Spirit does not belong to any particular religion because It has nothing to do with any religion and humanity cannot claim any exclusivity to It because we and our planet is nothing but a drop...

Desire is when you do what you want, will is when you can do what you do not want.

Bir insanın acı çekmesi, boş bir odadaki gazın davranışına benzer. Boş bir odaya belli miktarda gaz verildiği zaman, oda ne kadar büyük olursa olsun, gaz odanın tamamına yayılır. Dolayısıyla insanın çektiği acının ‘büyüklüğü’ kesinlikle görecelidir.

Usually when we hear or read something new, we just compare it to our own ideas. If it is the same, we accept it and say that it is correct. If it is not, we...