Resiliency is not gender-, age-, or intellectually specific…

Trauma can have a masking effect.

It’s very important the toilet be beautiful, that this stage is reflected. If a child suffers trauma, then he will have adult neuroses.

Resiliency is the body’s internal response to a stressful situation.

Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space.

Attachment. A secure attachment is the ability to bond; to develop a secure and safe base; an unbreakable or perceivable inability to shatter to bond between primary parental caregiver(s) and child; a quest for familiarity;...

Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain...

Loss has no friend, no allies, no benefit to the human spirit.

Secure attachment has been linked to a child’s ability to successfully recover and prove resilient in the presence of a traumatic event.

Trauma does not have to occur by abuse alone…

Resiliency is the essence of a global positive framework…

Childhood trauma does not come in one single package.

We don’t heal in isolation, but in community.

Coping with any death is traumatic; suicide compounds the anguish because we are forced to deal with two traumatic events at the same time. According to the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of...

We were still young enough to remember the cubist architecture of the piles of corpses we had seen during the war.

You can travel the world but If you cannot let go of the past, you will never move on.

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.

Coming to terms with incest is not easy. Learning to be a survivor, not a victim, gives new meaning to life

One of the best ways of repressing emotions is artificial certainty.

Trauma is any stressor that occurs in a sudden and forceful way and is experienced as overwhelming.

Traumatic events, by definition, overwhelm our ability to cope. When the mind becomes flooded with emotion, a circuit breaker is thrown that allows us to survive the experience fairly intact, that is, without becoming psychotic...

The trauma said, ‘Don’t write these poems.Nobody wants to hear you cry about the grief inside your bones.

The symptomatology of PTSD.In PTSD a traumatic event is not remembered and relegated to one’s past in the same way as other life events. Trauma continues to intrude with visual, auditory, and/or other somatic reality...

El problema es que mucha gente tiene miedo a sufrir cuando en el pasado han tenido experiencias amorosas traumatizantes. Como si les entrara un miedo a la vida, andan a la defensiva armando sus muros...

Can I dwell on what I scarce remember? I held a castle on the Marches once, and there was a woman I was pledged to marry, but I could not find that castle today, nor...

A cult is a group of people who share an obsessive devotion to a person oridea. The cults described in this book use violent tactics to recruit,indoctrinate, and keep members. Ritual abuse is defined as...

After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.

Our work calls on us to confront, with our patients and within ourselves, extraordinary human experiences. This confrontation is profoundly humbling in that at all times these experiences challenge the limits of our humanity and...

The power we discover inside ourselves as we survive a life-threatening experience can be utilized equally well outside of crisis, too. I am, in every moment, capable of mustering the strength to survive again—or of...

I’m ready for the day when Mom loves me too much to keep me, and for every other person who will someday see that I’m not worth holding on to.

If I was set an essay on Friday, I’d spend three hours on Saturday morning in the library. Was that normal? I didn’t know. What I did know was that I felt less prone to...

Whether we are speaking of a flower or an oak tree, of an earthworm or a beautiful bird, of an ape or a person, we will do well, I believe, to recognize that life is...

It’s as if I died too,’ she whispered to herself, ‘as if I was born dead.’Ironically, it was true. Emotionally she knew what her mind did not, beyond logic, beyond reason, as if somehow deep...

Early relational trauma results from the fact that we are often given more to experience in this life than we can bear to experience consciously. This problem has been around since the beginning of time,...

Survivors often develop an exaggerated need for control in their adult relationships. It’s the only way they feel safe. They also struggle with commitment—saying yes in a relationship means being trapped in yet another family...

false memory” implantations.

Distraction serves evil more than any other mental state.

You as a whole person are thus unable to reconcile conflicts about anger and learn to tolerate and express anger in healthy ways. Inner turmoil and dissociation are maintained.

In response to threat and injury, animals, including humans, execute biologically based, non-conscious action patterns that prepare them to meet the threat and defend themselves. The very structure of trauma, including activation, dissociation and freezing...

It is indeed the truth of the traumatic experience that forms the center of its psychopathology; it is not a pathology of falsehood or displacement of meaning, but of history itself” (p. 5)

Some flowers need flames to find their way into this world.

The central mechanism of the avoidance mechanism of PTSD is the ego defense of denial

It was no coincidence, that fear could move a person to extremes, just as seamlessly as love. They were the conjoined twins of emotion: If you didn’t know what was at stake to lose, you...

Many deeply hidden memories have come flooding back. The important message here though is that it is possible to heal and survive. Everyone has survived their own kind of emotional or mental trauma. We all...

I’m freeeee… SPLAT!”.

Understanding trauma and that we each respond to it differently will help us be supportive and nonjudgmental toward each other.

you are not an athlete because of what you can do, but because of who you are: a team player, someone who never quits, who strives to be his personal best, and who believes in...

There is, in every event, whether lived or told, always a hole or a gap, often more than one. If we allow ourselves to get caught in it, we find it opening onto a void...

Don’t be scared of scars. They just tell stories that are hard to hear.

Ritual Abuse usually involves repeated abuse over an extended period of time. The physical abuse is severe, sometimes including torture and killing. The sexual abuse is usually painful,humiliating, intended as a means of gaining dominance...