All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.

Writing started out as a kind of therapy for me. I was bullied mercilessly in high school, and I lived vicariously through Kitty. She was everything I wanted to be; strong, smart, witty, and above...

As I let it out, layer by layer, Dr. Driscoll helped with the bumps and valleys. He knew just how much to draw out of me and how much I could handle. He is such...

The open road. Seemingly my only friend for years upon end since leaving war. The road embraced me, let me breathe, and more importantly, did not judge me.

If the sound of happy children is grating on your ears, I don’t think it’s the children who need to be adjusted.

The first generation of therapists doing this work were told by their clients that the one massive cult was everywhere, knew everything, had access to state-of-the-art technology, and was willing to kill both clients and...

I write because it’s the only thing I love that always loves me back.

I don’t-” I shake my head. (…) “What? What were you going to say?” This is another trick of shrinks. They never let you stop in midthought. If you open your mouth, they want to...

Presence is about how every action can arise from the quality, which we call awareness – the presence of our inner being, the presence of our soul. It is a large difference between working with...

How can you get through to yourself?

Secondary structural dissociation involves one ANP and more than one EP. Examples of secondary structural dissociation are complex PTSD, complex forms of acute stress disorder, complex dissociative amnesia, complex somatoform disorders, some forms of trauma-relayed...

I wish you’d help me look into a more interesting problem – namely, my sanity.

Even you, the professional helper, often mistaken for the enlightened Guru or Staretz, can become lost in your thoughts that you must be competent without fault. You may become enthralled with your identity as a...

Once I had found the courage to tell Rebecca about the children in my head, it wasn’t so hard in the coming months to tell Roberta. On the train from Huddersfield one day in May...

numbs out.” It denies and distorts our Child Within, and is often judgmental.

There are still risks associated with hormone replacement therapy.

We can’t leave the past in the past because, the past is who we are. It’s like saying I wish I could forget English. So, there is no leaving the past in the past. It...

Your repressed feelings desperately try to climb to the surface but fail to do so, and in therapy we seek to reveal — to uncloak, if you will — these unconscious desires, the things that...

Don’t cry about it. Write about it.

I thought part of the idea of having therapy was putting one in touch with his or her feelings. And don’t give me all that about transference, and counter-transference and all that. I know what...

In the therapeutic process based on awareness, there exists no ”I” – it just exists a presence, a light, a love and a silence.

Are you repeating someone else’s narrative, taking it for granted? Talk therapy sessions and 12-step recovery shares help develop the ability to present a coherent life narrative through the safe structure of clear rules of...

I had some emotional issues, so I went to a therapist. And guess what I don’t have now? That’s right, I don’t have any extra money. But I still have those emotional issues.

The cases described in this section (The Fear of Being) may seem extreme, but I have become convinced that they are not as uncommon as one would think. Beneath the seemingly rational exterior of our...

When emotions turn and stay sour, when thoughts become cynical and judgmental, good and compassionate treatment is on the line. Helpers who become sour and cynical tend to begrudge their high need clients for their...

What can I say, the best therapy for me was to get in my Marlboro car and drive it.

chemistry” or infatuation, possession, strong admiration, or even worship—in short, traditional romantic love. Many people who grew up in troubled homes and who experienced a stifling of their Child Within become stuck at these lower...

The irony of taking Anti Depressants: you take them to feel good but they also make you feel bad or worse because you worry about your purse.

There’s no weakness as great as false strength.

I hear they make greeting cards now to thank your therapist… for NOTHING

When nothing else worked, we created a holistic, hand-tailored program that saved Pax’s life. At Passages, he and I use what we learned in curing him to help other discover the roots of their addiction...

Every person in therapy has a love disorder.

In situations where I feel unclear or I do not know what to say or do, I turn my attention within myself. Then I listen to what my intuition and to what Existence within myself...

There are many ways of getting strong, sometimes talking is the best way.

I’ve had that injury before. I don’t know that any injury hurts more. He had therapy from the second hole on, so he’s going to be sore. That’s why I put him off last so...

false memory” implantations.

Therapy entails the conceptual machinery to ensure that actual or potential deviants stay within the institutionalized definitions of reality, or, in other words, to prevent “inhabitants” of a given universe from “emigrating”. It does this...

I don’t really look at myself as the kind of person who craves attention, but I’ve never been to therapy so there’s probably a lot of stuff about myself that I don’t know.

A new question for the psychotherapist to ask is whether a theory can go beyond mere effectiveness in achieving either a so-called cure or even personal growth into its implications for the nature of an...

It is painful to face the self we know we have never had the integrity to honor and assert.

One of the best ways of repressing emotions is artificial certainty.

Do it for therapy. You can go to art school later.

If you examine your motive for doing anything, you’ll soon discover that your reason is that you believe it will make you happy.

We can order him to make appointments and talk to someone, but we can’t force him to actually do the work. You’ve got to be willing to work on your issues. You’ve got to be...

Presence is not a question of judging or evaluating a client or a client’s situation. Presence is to see the client’s situation in a positive and creative light with a vision for how the present...

Journal writing Helps Us Heal. That’s one of the therapeutic methods to helping us cope with hardship or painful situations in our lives. Writing in a journal allows us to make sense of things and...

The attempt to escape from pain, is what creates more pain.

I’ve been in therapy. I know enough about myself now to know that I really don’t need to know anymore.

I discovered there was an endless source of robust enjoyment in trifling with psychiatrists.

I’ve had a lot of therapists, so I’ve had the opportunity to approach my fear in many different ways. I’ve faced it head on and sideways and tried to tiptoe up behind it.