Thinking is computation, I claim, but that does not mean that the computer is a good metaphor for the mind. The mind is a set of modules, but the modules are not encapsulated boxes or...

Asshole Proximity Disorder

To be yourself is in many ways to be inconvenient to others. Only placaters and appeasers get along with other people all the time and that’s not really getting along with anyone. That’s just self...

If you discovered something that made you tighten inside, you had better try to learn more about it.

From what deep springs of character our personal philosophies issue, we cannot be sure. In philosophers themselves we seem always able to notice some deep internal correspondence between the man and his philosophy. Are our...

We often think we express negative emotions, not because we cannot help it, but because we should express them.

A psychiatrist is the God of our age. But they cost money.

It is human nature to strive.

No fact in human nature is more characteristic than its willingness to live on a chance. The existence of the chance makes the difference… between a life of which the keynote is resignation and a...

Religious man was born to be saved, psychological man is born to be pleased.

Wetiko doesn’t objectively exist, and yet, at the same time, it is not merely our projection or imagination. Instead of an either/or universe, where phenomena like wetiko are either real or unreal, there is an...

One Nice Guy asked me, “If a man is talking in the forest and no woman is there to hear him, is he still wrong?

do not exist,” or in any case do not exist in the same way as do the inhabitants of the real world. But things manifest in an entirely different way on the unconscious level, which...

Fui acusado de ser um utópico, de querer eliminar o desprazer do mundo e defender apenas o prazer. Contudo, tenho declarado claramente que a educação tradicional torna as pessoas incapazes para o prazer encouraçando-as contra...

In this quiet place on a quiet streetwhere no one ever finds usgently, lovingly, freedom gives back our pain.–from poem In a Quiet Place on a Quiet Street

. . . the newspapers of Utopia, he had long ago decided, would be terribly dull.

I see dull people as projects … to be reformed

Patience is supported & nurtured by a quality of forgiveness.

Nakajima’s past would always be there, so the foundation could crumble at any moment. That’s what happens, I realized, when people destroy other people.

Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.

One can learn from what is not said.

The majority of my patients consisted not of believers but of those who had lost their faith.

Only when we learn to value the differences among us can we achieve the true spirit of humanity.

We forget very easily what gives us pain.

To a certain degree,We all seek, life’s purpose and meaning,love, peace and joy,and knowledge, wealth and power…

Envy is a sign of insecurity, yes; but so is longing to be envied.

Because sugar is not arsenic, many graves are full.

People who cannot trust are themselves not trustworthy, and therefore cannot be entrusted with important things.

No matter what anyone says, no matter the excuse or explanation, whatever a person does in the end is what he intended to do all along.

The qualities required to be a good leader are usually incompatible with the qualities required to become a leader.

As the philosopher John Stuart Mill wrote, “It is better to be a human being dissatisfied than a pig satisfied; better to be Socrates dissatisfied than a fool satisfied. And if the fool, or the...

The guilty are uncomfortable with silence.

Love, experienced thus, is a constant challenge; it is not a resting place, but moving, growing, working together; even when there is harmony or conflict, joy or sadness, is secondary to the fundamental fact that...

Woman’s fear of the female Self, of the experience of the numinous archetypal Feminine, becomes comprehensible when we get a glimpse – or even only a hint – of the profound otherness of female selfhood...

The hardcore drug addicts that I treat, are, without exception, people who have had extraordinarily difficult lives. The commonality is childhood abuse. These people all enter life under extremely adverse circumstances. Not only did they...

The borderline Queen experiences what therapists call “oral greediness”. The desperate hunger of the borderline Queen is akin to the behavior of an infant who had gone too long between feelings. Starved, frustrated, and beyond...

If there is one thing developmental psychologists have learned over the years, it is that parents don’t have to be brilliant psychologists to succeed. They don’t have to be supremely gifted teachers. Most of the...

There is no such thing as isolated stress. Stress is always system wide.

More than ninety-five percent of your brain activity, as you consciously read this sentence, is being used by your subconscious mind.

Literature keeps presenting the most vicious things to us an entertainment, but what it appeals to is not any pleasure of these things, but the exhilaration of standing apart from them and being able to...

It is an acknowledged fact that we perceive errors in the work of others more readily than in our own.

Where the world comes in my way – and it comes in my way everywhere – I consume it to quiet the hunger of my egoism. For me you are nothing but – my food,...

I have heard that we are spirits having a human experience. Perhaps those of us who have no conscience are dark spirits having a human experience.

If you want to be proud of yourself, then do things in which you can take pride

Could hell be a place where there is no self-respect? A place where people have no pride in their own existence or behavior, and thus would have none for anyone or anything else?

What is the black shadow? It’s the running inner dialogue we have with ourselves all day long about our fears of being inferior as black people. It is our internalization of the white man’s lie...

Your time, energy and resources will get used no matter how well you focus them. By choosing to focus properly, you get the highest return for the efforts you invest in your life. Most people...

My father’s haunting memories of war had been transformed into my own haunting memories. Such is the power of war and memory.

Labels bias our perceptions, thinking, and behavior. A label or story can either separate us from, or connect us to, nature. For our health and happiness, we must critically evaluate our labels and stories by...

If the sound of happy children is grating on your ears, I don’t think it’s the children who need to be adjusted.