The fear to love reaches sometimes the depth of a panic, resembles sometimes the fear to die.

We all go a little mad sometimes.

There is another Brain Principle to go with ‘First Things First’: that of‘Last Things Too’. This states that, all other things being equal, you willrecall more easily the ‘last’ things. Check your own memory banks...

All writers are insecure, the male ones especially. It’s well known. Why else would they spend so much time on make-believe? They’re only happy in their imaginary worlds, because that’s where they’re in charge –...

Paradoxically, in descending into the depths of the unconscious in order to deal with the prima materia of the shadow, we are simultaneously on the path of ascending to the truly real, as we become...

…But the human tongue is a beast that few can master. It strains constantly to break out of its cage, and if it is not tamed, it will tun wild and cause you grief.

The only voice of dissent you have to dispel is your own.

Most of us would rather kill ourselves than be, particularly if who we think we are keeps dying. Many of us do.

Society has a herd psychology, so until we have more good shepherds we are lost.

Thoughts, words, emotions & deeds not coming from love are likely coming from fear.

The power-hungry individual follows a path to his own destruction.

Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.

Happiness, as is evident, depends partly upon external circumstances and partly upon oneself.

The psychopathology of the masses is rooted in the psychology of the individual

Obviously, there must be some connection between the subordination of actual individuals and the grotesque exaltation of symbolic ones like Kim Il Sung.

And many years later, as an adult student of history, Knecht was to perceive more distinctly that history cannot come into being without the substance and the dynamism of this sinful world of egoism and...

Uncertainty. Vulnerability. Death. Hard truths have a secret power over us. We’d rather ignore them.

The inconsistencies that haunt our relationships with animals also result from the quirks of human cognition. We like to think of ourselves as the rational species. But research in cognitive psychology and behavioral economics shows...

Definitions from Mulla Do-Piaza. Worry: Something to make you unnecessarily ill.

A Sufi is alive to the value of time, and is given, every moment, to what that moment demands.

We may not be able to control life’s circumstances, but we always have a choice about how we use our minds to respond to them.

My good fortune is not that I’ve recovered from mental illness. I have not, nor will I ever. My good fortune lies in having found my life.

Counterterrorism isn’t really about the nunchakus, the guns and gadgets. It’s about psychology.

I am told that the proximity of punishment arouses real repentance in the criminal and sometimes awakens a feeling of genuine remorse in the most hardened heart; I am told this is due to fear.

Bir kişinin kendi insanlığının tam anlamıyla bilincinde olması, Terence’in dediği gibi, “Homo sum; humani nihil a me alienum puto” (Ben bir insanım, insansal olan hiçbir şey bana yabancı değildir), kavramının, herkesin insanlığa ait her şeyi...

people will focus on procedures and not notice anything that isn’t just part of the procedures

Recognizing the structure of your psychology doesn’t mean that you can easily rebuild it.

Shame is internalized when one is abandoned. Abandonment is the precise term to describe how one loses one’s authentic self and ceases to exist psychologically.

Almost everyone is overconfident–except the people who are depressed, and they tend to be realists.

If education is always to be conceived along the same antiquated lines of a mere transmission of knowledge, there is little to be hoped from it in the bettering of man’s future.

Self-esteem is not a luxury; it is a profound spiritual need.

Historians are wont to name technological advances as the great milestones of culture, among them the development of the plow, the discovery of smelting and metalworking, the invention of the clock, printing press, steam power,...

Volatile expressions of anger and hostility combined with a tendency to blame others often result from feeling shame…. If you are shame-prone, any accusation directed at you, regardless of how mildly it may be delivered,...

The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline.

The affairs of the world are no more than so much trickery, and a man who toils for money or honour or whatever else in deference to the wishes of others, rather than because his...

Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts.

The Air Loom, for all its florid craziness, can be seen to have a function and a rationale: as a miraculous, if temporary, fix for a breaking mind, a coping strategy for a life that...

Certainly, it’s important to acknowledge and identify the effects of BPD on your life. It’s equally important to realize that it neither dictates who you are nor fixes your destiny.

Why did this keep happening? Why her? Perhaps there was some pheromone certain people omitted, perceivable only on a wavelength unique to those individuals who preyed on them.

The application of this knife, the division of the world into parts and the building of this structure, is something everybody does. All the time we are aware of millions of things around us –...

empathy is like a universal solvent. Any problem immersed in empathy becomes soluble.

Pulse proximity is not intimacy.

Imagining that you are deep and complex, but others are simple, is one of the primary signs of malignant selfishness.

In the animal kingdom, the rule is, eat or be eaten; in the human kingdom, define or be defined.

Presence is not a question of judging or evaluating a client or a client’s situation. Presence is to see the client’s situation in a positive and creative light with a vision for how the present...

No matter what I said they insisted on thinking of God as something outside themselves. Something that yearns to take every indolent moron to His breast and comfort him. The notion that the effort has...

Now if you are told that some piece of information will come as a shock to you, the chances are that you will really feel shocked, even if the information itself isn’t of the slightest...

Our personal identities are socially situated. We are where we live, eat, work, and make love. […]Our sense of identity is in large measure conferred on us by others in the ways they treat or...

did” something to them, you made them well. You acted upon them and can take the credit for successful therapy or treatment. Conversely, if your clients flounder or regress, that reflects poorly on you. On...

We humans seem to be extremely good at generating ideas, theories, and explanations that have the ring of plausibility. We may be relatively deficient, however, in evaluating and testing our ideas once they are formed