The reason why many people remain on the bottom is because they play to ‘not lose’, as opposed to playing to win at all costs.

It is impossible to control outcomes or results, although most of us have been programmed from a very young age to believe otherwise. The idea that we can perform actual ‘magic’ causes tremendous dysfunction, unnecessary...

point of power.

While the opportunity to improve yourself and your situation is a great thing, our striving to build perfect lives seems to have morphed into perfectionism so focused on itself that we forget about others in...

True happiness, we are told, consists in getting out of one’s self; but the point is not only to get out – you must stay out; and to stay out you must have some absorbing...

Our ultimate goal is to be fully present for life. It takes practice

Few of us ever live in the present. We are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.

I would like people to remember of me, howinexhaustible was her mindfulness.

Caregiving will never be one-size-fits-all.

Life is not about what happened yesterday nor what will happen tomorrow,it’s about this particular moment!

Buddha first taught metta meditation as an antidote: as a way of surmounting terrible fear when it arises.

Each place is the right place–the place where I now am can be a sacred space. (3)

We have negative mental habits that come up over and over again. One of the most significant negative habits we should be aware of is that of constantly allowing our mind to run off into...

Mindfulness promises a great number of desirable benefits, and is based on much more solid research than many competing ideas on how to change people.

Like a child standing in a beautiful park with his eyes shut tight, there’s no need to imagine trees, flowers, deer, birds, and sky; we merely need to open our eyes and realize what is...

Without the ability to be present we are missing much of what the adventure has to offer.

A close examination of the instructions in the Satipaṭṭhāna Sutta reveals that the meditator is never instructed to interfere actively with what happens in the mind. If a mental hindrance arises, for example, the task...

The human brain is incredible in its capacity to heal and rewire itself. The human brain can be shaped and trained to be more resilient, calm, compassionate and alert—we can condition ourselves to be successful....

…there is something very vital happening when we breathe—without it we die—but trying to speed it up, force it, grasp it, push it away or control it tends to get in the way. As in...

Although social and personal circumstances will play their part in contributing to how an individual suffers, in Buddhist thought blame is seen as a “poison” that will only lead to negative actions and will do...

To the degree we give power to anything outside ourselves we become powerless

Feel better, work better.

Whether we are feasting or fasting or somewhere in between, food should have a sacred role in our lives. It can be something we sacrifice, something we savor, something we share, and through it all...

In any given situation there will always be more dumb people than smart people. We ain’t many!

I was there!”-surely that is the answer to God’s question. For no matter how the universe came into being, most of the atoms in these fleeting assemblies that we think of as our bodies have...

In a situation of potential conflict, let compassion guide you.

The true self is that which is in touch with reality. The false self is the aspects of your personality that are adapted to threats and no longer consciously recognizes either the adaptation or the...

Lao Tze’s vision is compatible with the Positive Paradigm of Change. In fact, placing the language of his passages into the levels of the Wheel serves to clarify his vision. The model is therefore shown...

Walk as if you are kissing the Earth with your feet.

I could not see beauty until I held hands with chaos in silence.

Vipassana meditation is an ongoing creative purification process. Observation of the moment-to-moment experience cleanses the mental layers, one after another.

The experience of pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral is the consequences of perception.

Do not ruin today with mourning tomorrow.

The mind which is created quick to love, is responsive to everything that is pleasing, soon as by pleasure it is awakened into activity. Your apprehensive faculty draws an impression from a real object, and...

Think of the old cliché about the mind being ‘an excellent servant but a terrible master’. This, like many clichés, so lame & banal on the surface, actually expresses a great & terrible truth.

Mindfulness allows you to face the past with courage, whether it is scarred with pain or caressed with joy, and it gently holds you in the safe haven of the present without allowing you to...

One practical way to do this is to look at other people and ask yourself if you are really seeing them of just your thought about them. Sometimes our thoughts act like dream glasses. When...

You have the ability to control your thoughts.

There are a thousand thousand reasons to live this life, everyone of them sufficient

Desire I think has less to do with possession than with participation, the will to involve oneself in the body of the world, in the principle of things expressing itself in splendid specificity, a handful...

With mindfulness there is more to unlearn than there is to learn.

The simple act of being completely attentive & present to another person is an act of love, and it fosters unshakeable well-being.

While you’ll feel compelled to charge forward it’s often a gentle step back that will reveal to you where you and what you truly seek.

The sage is still not because he takes stillness to be good and therefore is still. The ten thousand things are insufficient to distract his mind – that is the reason he is still.

Mindful living is an art. You do not have to be a monk or living in a monastery to practice mindfulness. You can practice it anytime, while driving your car or doing housework. Driving in...

Like some homeopathic cure, our very sense of imprisonment can be a step toward liberation. We need not rebel against our temporally determined roles. Merely to recognize them is to limit their power over us....

When we teach a child patience we offer them the gift of a dignified life.

Our minds of infinite possibilities have been plowed, seeded and cultivated by every word, institution and sacred belief we hold dear, to produce a foul harvest of exclusion, apathy, brute domination and death.

Happiness is a skill. It requires effort and time”.

With mind distracted, never thinking, “Death is coming,”To slave away on the pointless business of mundane life,And then to come out empty–it is a tragic error. (116)trans by Robert Thurman