Perfectionists are not all negative, miserable, unhappy and over controlling individuals

Letting go of the past, is like opening the flood gates of healing to be set free.

Dr. Asa Don Brown has successfully managed to amalgamate his own profound insights with centuries old wisdom and contemporary psychology to produce an unique, lucid and pragmatic work. His book will undoubtedly inspire those seeking inspiration, educate those seeking an education, and edify those seeking an edification. In a world where many are often making...

Loss has no friend, no allies, no benefit to the human spirit.

As an individual, you are entitled to your time of grief, process of grief, and right to grieve.

There is no greater grief, than when a parent losses a child.

All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.

In simple, the past is a time gone by and no longer exists in the present moment, but we choose to allow this past to occupy our minds, our bodies and our very existence.

The loss of a child exploits the emotions of each individual it encounters.

Teams that spend a lot of time learning the tricks of the trade will probably never really learn the trade.

most of us can only deny short-term pleasures because we see a realistic path between self-denial now and something better down the road.

Deanna’s job (as counselor) is to keep us from deluding ourselves.

I want to open a broken marriage repair shop. I’m not a counselor or psychologist, but I am a fan of the magical bonding that occurs between two people when duct tape binds them together for a long period of time in a dark basement. Refer a friend, and you get a two for one...

If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.

Allow yourself to be an anchor and anchored by others.

The malpractice for advice-giving is like five times as much as a craniotomy.

For example, in order to identify these schemas or clarify faulty relational expectations, therapists working from an object relations, attachment, or cognitive behavioral framework often ask themselves (and their clients) questions like these: 1. What does the client tend to want from me or others? (For example, clients who repeatedly were ignored, dismissed, or even...

Almost everything I’ve done is technically wrong, but Paul never mentioned the mistakes, only the corrective measures.

I have frequently thought to myself, ‘If I can teach my daughter one thing, it will be the love of self unconditionally.’ Unconditional love and peace are obtainable, but they are only obtainable if I can learn to move beyond the conditions that I placed on my life. When conditions are placed on my life...

Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.

Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.

The loss of my child broke my spirit.

All you need is one safe anchor to keep you grounded when the rest of your life spins out of control

The mouth tastes food, the heart tastes words.

The counselor says that with more time and more surgeries, I will begin to feel normal again. She says this with a mouth that can still smile. It’s so easy to be reassuring when you have lips.

The benefits of forgiveness are limitless.

There is an inverse relationship between control and trust. Trust is more of a two-way exchange than most people, especially those in power, realize. Leaders in government, news media, universities, and corporations think they can own trust, when, of course, trust is given to them. Trust is earned with difficulty and lost with ease. When...

The world’s greatest achievers have been those who have always stayed focussed on their goals and have been consistent in their efforts.

Perfectionism is adaptive if you are mindful of your humanhood.

Abuse? Ah. Such problems, even with time, do not go away on their own. They must be addressed. André Chevalier

failure is costly, both to society and to individuals. Pretending that all people are equal in their abilities will not change the fact that a person with an average IQ is unlikely to become a theoretical physicist, or the fact that a person with a low level of music ability is unlikely to become a...

(The historian) “was able to disapprove without being astonished. She could reject and still understand.

Counseling, drugs, a religious advisor, a girlfriend.

Infusing the cultural war with love, respect and empathy is the responsibility of every one who cares about the health and wellbeing of women, our families and communities, and our democracy.

The actions and emotional responses of others are not your responsibility. You cannot rescue people from themselves. This is for them to do. — André Chevalier

The word ‘survivor’ carries a weight of remembrance that has broken the minds and bodies of more than a few men and women. It also contains a humbling light of recognition that compels many to do whatever they can to help reinforce the efforts of those who might be ‘at risk’ of not just giving...

Author says her father was so diplomatic that when people came to him for solutions, people not only accepted them, but they believed they thought of them.

We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We need to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by...

Ed Welch says that all counseling is a variation on a single theme: knowing and praying for the counselee. Of all the questions the counselor might ask, then, the central guiding question in the counselor’s mind is, “How can I pray for you?

When a woman miscarries, the experience of the father is often forgotten. But men grieve pregnancy loss too…

Author has developed a routine of daily emotional debriefing with his kids as he tucks them in at night. To encourage the habit of keeping uncluttered, open heart, he starts with basic questions asking whether anyone has hurt them or made them angry to help them process at an age-appropriate depth. As they mature, he...

Facing one’s past can be a perilous activity. For the client, joy must exceed misery. Personal successes must far outweigh losses. Pleasure must exceed pain. Always. Always. To do otherwise is a failure of the counselor.— André Chevalier

If any parent feels like their child could use some counseling, they should call the school.

To take such a complex creature, on who was meant for God and is destroyed by sin, and attempt to understand how the development of that creature can be affected by hideous trauma is to attempt the impossible.

Often, our misunderstandings about love are born in disruptive family relationships, where someone was either one-up or one-down to an extreme. There is an appropriate and necessary difference in the balance of power between parents and young children, but in the best situations, there should be no power struggles by the time those children have...

The biblical counselor must always remember that the ROOT problem is deeper than skin; it is sin. The ultimate cure is not culture, but Christ.

If you ask an Irishman for directions, he might be quick to answer, Well if I were going there, I would not start here.

Although the client-centered approach had its origin purely within the limits of the psychological clinic, it is proving to have implications, often of a startling nature, for very diverse fields of effort.

A skilled listener can help people tap into their own wisdom.

God can make good use of all that happens, but the loss is real.