Build a bridge over shame by teaching kids about sexual abuse. Give them a chance to run to us should they encounter it. Be their hero.

We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can’t use shame to change ourselves or others.

The difference between men and women is this–if you catch a woman butt-naked, she tries to cover the private parts with her hands. A man will sit there just like you found him even if...

I truly believe I am not afraid of death. What I shrink from, I believe, is the shame of dying as stupid and befuddled as I am.

Was that the best You can do?” This god, to whom I was desperately sending burnt offerings of my own humiliation, couldn’t send an avenging angel or a wise man imparting wisdom? All You can...

She had heard it was easy to blame others for one’s own failures. But that wasn’t exactly accurate. It was easy to blame herself for what had happened–hard to live with it.

Elle se sentait en même temps indignée contre tous ses voisins, et humiliée d’avoir cedé, souillée par les baisers de ce Prussien entre les bras duquel on l’avait hypocritement jetée.

Volatile expressions of anger and hostility combined with a tendency to blame others often result from feeling shame…. If you are shame-prone, any accusation directed at you, regardless of how mildly it may be delivered,...

We may also discover that sexual abuse helps to explain the high prevalence rates of eating disorders among women and may lend some insight into why we are starting to see more documentation of eating...

This disease comes with a package: shame. When any other part of your body gets sick, you get sympathy.

If people try to judge you or shame you for doing safe, consensual things that make you happy, I can guarantee you they’re bad people.

Mind chatter: a clatter of left-brain rains of doubt, worry, guilt, shame in a thunderstorm of fear. Forgive the chatter, clear your mind.

[W]hen people are ashamed they hold aloof, above all from those nearest to them, and are unreserved with strangers

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.

Shamed and enraged, I sit by the side of the road and cry.Eclipsed by a sense of disgrace, my emotions feel momentarily stifled and disconnected. Instead of anger, I feel dishonored and exposed. I cannot...

fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver miss an opportunity for understanding.

Unfortunately we find systems of education today that have departed so far from the plain truth that they now teach us to be proud of what we know and ashamed of ignorance. This is doubly...

Did you make a mistake today? Did you do or say something that you’re ashamed of? Congratulations. You are officially human. Love yourself, especially when you’re aching with shame or regret. Make your amends, learn...

Swann, with that almost arrogant charity of a man of the world who, amid the dissolution of all his own moral prejudices, finds in another’s shame merely a reason for treating him with a friendly...

I’m not interested in Bob Marley telling me to ‘lively up’ myself. The only music that satisfies me is Nine Inch Nails and Trent Reznor’s voice crying through industrial rhytms. In the August evenings, I...

I am not ashamed that I was once a vacuum-cleaner salesman, only that I was a *good* vacuum-cleaner salesman.

Your mistakes are to help you develop your purpose, not shame and guilt.

They did not submit to the obvious alternative, which was simply to close the eyes and fall. So easy, really. Go limp and tumble to the ground and let the muscles unwind and not speak...

When you’re ashamed of their action, to ask them the reason of their actions can make you a fool.

It’s a pity. I don’t know who he is to you… But you are disgusting. To claim you fight for his honor, when all you do is bring shame to his name.

THIS IS WHAT A MAN LOOKS LIKE. HE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE AESTHETICALLY PLEASING; HE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE MUSCULAR; HE DESERVES NOT TO BE PHOTOSHOPPED. HE IS HUMAN, AND HE HAS BLEMISHES....

Why had he done it? Why couldn’t it just not have happened? Why didn’t they have time-travel, why couldn’t he go back and stop it happening? Ships that could circumnavigate the galaxy in a few...

Kill the blames and you will put your shames into blazing flames. Look for solutions, not problems!

And as long as you are in any way ashamed before yourself, you do not yet belong with us.

I was beautiful. Now, because I am old, I take no shame in so saying.

Loss of social standing is an ever-present threat for individuals whose social acceptance is based on behavioral traits rather than unconditional human value.

I look in the mirror through the eyes of the child that was me.

Temporis filia veritas; cui me obstetricari non pudet.Truth is the daughter of time, and I feel no shame in being her midwife.

Alterations in regulation of affect (emotion) and impulse:Almost all People who are seriously traumatized have problems in tolerating and regulating their emotions and surges or impulses. However, those with complex PTSD and dissociative disorders tend...

Think wisely before you exercise an action. Having done so however, never look back and regret. That would be a shame

Because any guilt the sizeof a speck of dust, or shame,can crush even the best of men,in mountains of weight

I felt ashamed.””But of what? Psyche, they hadn’t stripped you naked or anything?””No, no, Maia. Ashamed of looking like a mortal — of being a mortal.””But how could you help that?””Don’t you think the things...

If we are going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of *what we’re supposed to...

It’s a shame there has to be a tragedy before the best in people will finally shine.

The man who is most aggressive in teaching tolerance is the most intolerant of all: he wants a world full of people too timid and ashamed to really disagree with anything.

When life beats us down, we often do not feel worthwhile to ourselves nor to anyone else. Often, we try to hide our feelings of inadequacy in pursuit of perfection, which develops into self-loathing. If...

I was still searching for someone to blame for my suffering. I really wanted someone to transfer my hate to, so that I could stop hating myself.

Shame isn’t a quiet grey cloud, shame is a drowning man who claws his way on top of you, scratching and tearing your skin, pushing you under the surface.

If you have realistic ideals and can generally live up to them, your self-esteem will not be threatened. If your ideals are exaggerated and you cannot reach them, your good feelings from successes may be...

Culture alone cannot explain the phenomena of such high rates of eating disorders. Eating disorders are complex, but what they all seem to have in common is the ability to distract women from the memories,...

Shame-shame.

Modesty was hardly a priority in her mind until now. Now she had been cast from Hell and again knew shame.

O [Roman] people be ashamed; be ashamed of your lives. Almost no cities are free of evil dens, are altogether free of impurities, except the cities in which the barbarians have begun to live…Let nobody...

I suppose that a lifetime spent hiding one’s erotic truth could have a cumulative renunciatory effect. Sexual shame is in itself a kind of death.

Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: “Who has earned the right to hear my story?” If we have one...