I had some emotional issues, so I went to a therapist. And guess what I don’t have now? That’s right, I don’t have any extra money. But I still have those emotional issues.

Families that feel together, heal together.

…it was regarded as almost outside the proper interest of an analyst to give systematic attention to a person’s real experiences.

But insight doesn’t necessarily produce self-control. Sometimes you just see your destructiveness more clearly.

How much more generous it would be if, instead of writing parables about childhood wounds, psychologists were to accept that some differences between the sexes just are, that they are in the nature of the...

Groups create supernatural beings not to explain the universe but to order their societies.

In any culture, subculture, or family in which belief is valued above thought, and self-surrender is valued above self-expression, and conformity is valued above integrity, those who preserve their self-esteem are likely to be heroic...

Theories without data are like daydreams.

Good God, what a mess of draggle-tail impulses a man is–and a woman too, I guess.

Their daddy was fond of saying that mistakes weren’t sins. The sin was not to learn from them.

It is evident, therefore, that one of the most fundamental problems of psychology is that of investigating the laws of mental growth. When these laws are known, the door of the future will in a...

For the most part, “naturals” are myths. People who are especially good at something may have some innate inclination, or some particular talent, but they have also spent about ten thousand hours practicing or doing...

It is not always a bad thing for you to be challenged by life and to struggle; however, as you go through these times, you have to be careful not to lose yourself in the...

Identity confusion is defined by the SCID-D as a subjective feeling of uncertainty, puzzlement, or conflict about one’s own identity. Patients who report histories of childhood trauma characteristically describe themes of ongoing inner struggle regarding...

In the 1980s, research on post traumatic stress disorder in Vietnam veterans was regarded as important, noble, and useful. When the same researchers looked at the same problem in children who had been sexually abused,...

Each individual possesses a conscience which to a greater or lesser degree serves to restrain the unimpeded flow of impulses destructive to others. But when he merges his person into an organizational structure, a new...

A life without love is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. So, keep love in your heart if not your best friend today will turn to your worst enemy tomorrow.

The goal of parenting is to create self-sufficient virtues in children. Applying external pressure and punishments tends to teach them fear-based compliance rather than the internalization of moral standards.

Knowledge is responsibility, which is why people resist knowledge.

Human emotions have deep evolutionary roots, a fact that may explain their complexity and provide tools for clinical practice.The Nature of Emotions (2001)

When we are authentic, when we act out of presence and awareness, it also gives nourishment to the inner being of people around us.

Sometimes life seems like a poorly designed cage within which man has been sentenced to be free.

Ego is like an antivirus which eventually takes unwanted control of the computer itself.

We all do things in a certain individual way, according to our temperaments. Every human act — no matter how large or how small— is a direct expression of a man’s personality, and bears the...

It is time to climb the mountains of our mind

When the contents of the collective unconscious become activated, they have an unsettling effect on the conscious mind of everyone. When this psychic dynamic is not consciously metabolized, not just within an individual but collectively,...

We are the cats inside. We are the cats who cannot walk alone, and for us there is only one place.

It is a predisposition of human nature to consider an unpleasant idea untrue, and then it is easy to find arguments against it.

That’s the way the mind works: the brain is genetically disposed towards organization, yet if not controlled, will link even the most imagerial fragment to another on the flimsiest pretense and in the most freewheeling...

I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.

Respect your needs and limitations as you work through your grief and begin to heal

In the first years of our lives we learn how to shit, talk, walk, sleep, eat and, most importantly, how to royally piss off our parents.

The moment we refuse to hurt others because of our own pain, is the time we evolve as souls.

When I became too much myself, I had to change my life.

It is not what we do but how we feel doing what we do that matters.

I have frequently seen people become neurotic when they content themselves with inadequate or wrong answers to the questions of life. They seek position, marriage, reputation, outward success of money, and remain unhappy and neurotic...

O paciente precisa aprender a distinguir o eu do não-eu, isto é, da psique coletiva. Assim, adquire o material com que vai ter que se haver daí em diante e por muito tempo ainda. A...

IT IS NOT ABOUT SYMPATHY OR LIKEABILITY, EITHER. EMPATHY IS ABOUT THE TRANSLATION OF FEELING.

the value of a pace,” or competitor, shaves twenty to thirty seconds off the time of a mile. To rigorously test the value of human proximity, he got forty children to compete at spinning fishing...

You maintain hope for humanity as an infinite skeptic of gossip and slander. In all mankind’s desires for entertainment and exaggeration and sensationalism, when it comes to gossip, the individual always sounds worse than he...

It is a well known fact that even among highly cultured peoples the belief in animism prevails generally. Even the scholar may kick the chair against which he accidentally stumbles, and derive great satisfaction from...

…most systems end up by making imagined humility into a form of vanity, so they end up with vanity just the same.

Worry is a cloud which rains destruction.

The tape measures and weighing scales of the Victorian brain scientists have been supplanted by powerful neuroimaging technologies, but there is still a lesson to be learned from historical examples such as these. State-of-the-art brain...

For, after all, how do we know that two and two make four? Or that the force of gravity works? Or that the past is unchangeable? If both the past and the external world exist...

Rasa benci tidak mungkin sepenuhnya dibersihkan. Itulah hal yang harus kita terima, agar tetap punya sifat kuat dan agresif.

Existuje ještě jeden další rozdíl mezi logikou zjevného a skrytého vyprávění. Ve zjevném vyprávění existuje logická kauzální souvislost mezi vnějšími událostmi. Jonáš chce plout přes moře, protože chce utéci před Bohem, usne, protože je unaven,...

Umut yok olduğunda, yaşam olgusal ya da gizil (potansiyel) olarak sona ermiştir. Umut, yaşamın doğasında, insan ruhunun dinamiğinde varolan bir öğedir. Yaşamın doğasını oluşturan bir başka öğeye çok yakından bağlıdır. Bu öge, inanç’dır.

It does not take a man to stand with the strong, it takes a man to stand with the weak and oppose the strong.

Human beings, viewed as behaving systems, are quite simple. The apparent complexity of our behavior over time is largely a reflection of the complexity of the environment in which we find ourselves.