A skilled listener can help people tap into their own wisdom.

God can make good use of all that happens, but the loss is real.

Unfortunately, there is no expiration date on grief

Real loved one’s aren’t afraid, and will suggest to you, what’s in your best interest because they wouldn’t want too see you suffer the consequences of, sideways, emotional impulse(s). To see you crash and burn,...

A woman’s love for a man should never be taken for granted. What is life without love?

Before you can live a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently....

I could go into their reality any time I chose to, but they could never come into mine. This is what I called ‘helping’ them.

Sacramental listening reminds us that current suffering isn’t the end of the story. God loves us deeply, and the vision for the future is vaster and more magnificent than we could ever imagine. In these...

Respect your needs and limitations as you work through your grief and begin to heal

Being Scared-off by EvilLastly, we deny the presence of evil because we are terrified by the horrendously hurtful, cruel, and bloody kinds of evil people tell us about—if we are willing to listen. This was...

Humankind cannot bear too much reality.

An unresolved issue will be like a cancer with the potential to spread into other areas of your relationship, eroding the joy, lightness, love and beauty.

The Anatomy of Conflict:If there is no communication then there is no respect. If there is no respect then there is no caring. If there is no caring then there is no understanding. If there...

I’d always follow Nixon’s orders, but you can’t order somebody to be happy.

You cannot contain evil by shaming it, or making people feel guilty, but only by revealing it toward it is, and then seeing the good as better.

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting or making the memories insignificant. Healing means refocusing

Part of the genius of (Nick) Sabin’s system was that he understood that no matter the skill set, he was inheriting vulnerable kids from various backgrounds. For those times when they made poor decisions, as...

We do not have to have the correct answers to listen well. In fact, often the correct answers are a hindrance to listening well, for we become more anxious to give the correct answer than...

We have been together for 40 years, married for 36. There have been three times in our relationship when we were unable to resolve an issue on our own. We used all the skill that...

Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.

In the reflected gaze of his (her husband’s) steady admiration, she saw the face of the girl he had fallen in love with.

Treat this crisis as practice for the next crisis.

I’ve had a lot of therapists, so I’ve had the opportunity to approach my fear in many different ways. I’ve faced it head on and sideways and tried to tiptoe up behind it.

Alex had cooked, and coaxed, and helped Mark form borders around the shapeless days. Alex had given meaning to the word “servant”.

did” something to them, you made them well. You acted upon them and can take the credit for successful therapy or treatment. Conversely, if your clients flounder or regress, that reflects poorly on you. On...

Every person in therapy has a love disorder.

All change comes from deepening your understanding of the salvation of Christ and living out the changes that understanding creates in your heart.

You have the chief spark of your health’s fire, for you have true knowledge of the hand that guides the universe.

One must always forgive another’s passion.

The separation of truth from reason is a dangerous game. I think ideas have to sink very deeply into a person’s soul, into their being, before they can effect change.

When emotions turn and stay sour, when thoughts become cynical and judgmental, good and compassionate treatment is on the line. Helpers who become sour and cynical tend to begrudge their high need clients for their...

The benefit of personal growth and self-discovery is that we become better human beings with the strength to endure and carry on, and then we may experience something magical when we begin to reach out...