When emotions turn and stay sour, when thoughts become cynical and judgmental, good and compassionate treatment is on the line. Helpers who become sour and cynical tend to begrudge their high need clients for their...

The benefit of personal growth and self-discovery is that we become better human beings with the strength to endure and carry on, and then we may experience something magical when we begin to reach out...

most of us can only deny short-term pleasures because we see a realistic path between self-denial now and something better down the road.

Deanna’s job (as counselor) is to keep us from deluding ourselves.

I want to open a broken marriage repair shop. I’m not a counselor or psychologist, but I am a fan of the magical bonding that occurs between two people when duct tape binds them together...

If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.

The malpractice for advice-giving is like five times as much as a craniotomy.

For example, in order to identify these schemas or clarify faulty relational expectations, therapists working from an object relations, attachment, or cognitive behavioral framework often ask themselves (and their clients) questions like these: 1. What...

Almost everything I’ve done is technically wrong, but Paul never mentioned the mistakes, only the corrective measures.

Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.

Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.

All you need is one safe anchor to keep you grounded when the rest of your life spins out of control

The mouth tastes food, the heart tastes words.

The counselor says that with more time and more surgeries, I will begin to feel normal again. She says this with a mouth that can still smile. It’s so easy to be reassuring when you...

There is an inverse relationship between control and trust. Trust is more of a two-way exchange than most people, especially those in power, realize. Leaders in government, news media, universities, and corporations think they can...

The world’s greatest achievers have been those who have always stayed focussed on their goals and have been consistent in their efforts.

Abuse? Ah. Such problems, even with time, do not go away on their own. They must be addressed. André Chevalier

failure is costly, both to society and to individuals. Pretending that all people are equal in their abilities will not change the fact that a person with an average IQ is unlikely to become a...

(The historian) “was able to disapprove without being astonished. She could reject and still understand.

Counseling, drugs, a religious advisor, a girlfriend.

Infusing the cultural war with love, respect and empathy is the responsibility of every one who cares about the health and wellbeing of women, our families and communities, and our democracy.

The actions and emotional responses of others are not your responsibility. You cannot rescue people from themselves. This is for them to do. — André Chevalier

The word ‘survivor’ carries a weight of remembrance that has broken the minds and bodies of more than a few men and women. It also contains a humbling light of recognition that compels many to...

Author says her father was so diplomatic that when people came to him for solutions, people not only accepted them, but they believed they thought of them.

We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We need to...

Ed Welch says that all counseling is a variation on a single theme: knowing and praying for the counselee. Of all the questions the counselor might ask, then, the central guiding question in the counselor’s...

When a woman miscarries, the experience of the father is often forgotten. But men grieve pregnancy loss too…

Author has developed a routine of daily emotional debriefing with his kids as he tucks them in at night. To encourage the habit of keeping uncluttered, open heart, he starts with basic questions asking whether...

Facing one’s past can be a perilous activity. For the client, joy must exceed misery. Personal successes must far outweigh losses. Pleasure must exceed pain. Always. Always. To do otherwise is a failure of the...

If any parent feels like their child could use some counseling, they should call the school.

To take such a complex creature, on who was meant for God and is destroyed by sin, and attempt to understand how the development of that creature can be affected by hideous trauma is to...

Often, our misunderstandings about love are born in disruptive family relationships, where someone was either one-up or one-down to an extreme. There is an appropriate and necessary difference in the balance of power between parents...