Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.

Have you ever suffered a sharp disappointment or a painful loss and found yourself looking for someone to blame? Have you, for example, ever been nasty to a store clerk when you were really upset...

Outside of my professional life, I have known many couples over the years who had passion and electricity between them and who treated each other well. But unfortunately there is wide acceptance in our society...

If he’s hitting you now, stop contemplating leaving him, and just leave.

If you spend time with crazy and dangerous people, remember – their personalities are socially transmitted diseases; like water poured into a container, most of us eventually turn into – or remain – whoever we...

(To the haters) You are not extinguishing the bright lights of mankind, you’re simply burying yourself in an unmarked grave.

You have to teach ’em not to mess with you. You gotta be the big guy don’t let him hurt you. If he hits you stand back up and beat the shit out of him.

My definition of an intellectual is someone who can listen to the William Tell Overture without thinking of the Lone Ranger” – Billy Connolly

I have found out the hard way that the path from victim to victory hinges on one word…Choose.

That happens all the time. That’s basically all I hear. The most common criticism I get is that I’m being manipulated and you shouldn’t use children in political ways, because that is abuse, and I...

One might say my life has been tragic. Yet, as I sat in pain in the hospital I raised my tired hands toward the sky, palms facing in, fingers spread, and I gave thanks.

It is this dependency that became, and is, the breeding ground for abuses of power.

Beating yourself up over every perceived mistake is the work of an internal abuser who must be restrained and reformed.

The world isn’t fair? What a huge revelation! Some people in power abuse those they have power over? Amazing! When did this start happening?

There is a history of abuse, and we’re calling upon the ministry to be very conscious about constitutional rights this year. If they are not, we will be.

Sometimes, some of you speak about god, and I mistake him for an abusive lover you’re trying to escape.

First you try to find a reason, try to understand what you’ve done so wrong so you can be sure not to do it anymore. After that you look for signs of a Jekyll and...

People think it’s bad for them. While abuse of anything is a problem, some chocolates actually have antioxidant properties that reduce the risk of blot clots and heart disease.

He says, “I would walk around the township and I could point them out, which girls had been abused. You could see it in them. There’s a luminosity to incest. The taboo is so strong...

cranky.” And big, gulping sobs, or sad, unhappy young minds, in a tiny body should not occur in any community of civilization. Adulthood holds many an opportunity for such conditions. Childhood should not.

It’s estimated that $55 million dollars is spent on aftercare in Kenya alone every year. This model is not practical or sustainable and does nothing to address the growing epidemic of sexual violence. It’s crucial...

The law protects you from being abused. It doesn’t threaten your lifestyle for someone else to have the right to exhibit their lifestyle.

Do not injure, abuse, oppress, enslave, insult, torment, torture, or kill any creature or living being.

When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he was angry because he was abusive. Abusers carry attitudes that produce fury.

liberated” men. No psychological test can distinguish an abusive man from a respectful one. Abusiveness is not a product of a man’s emotional injuries or of deficits in his skills. In reality, abuse springs from...

Abuse is a parasite that feeds off hate and shame, growing in size and strength with silence.

I never felt truly helpless.

Guilt is a feeling that you owe a debt that you’re not paying.

I loved Trevor wholly. In all the good ways that made me feel alive and special and important. But also, in the bad ways. The ways that shut me off from others and left me...

But nothing in my previous work had prepared me for the experience of reinvestigating Cleveland. It is worth — given the passage of time — recalling the basic architecture of the Crisis: 121 children from...

SELFHOOD AND DISSOCIATIONThe patient with DID or dissociative disorder not otherwise specified (DDNOS) has used their capacity to psychologically remove themselves from repetitive and inescapable traumas in order to survive that which could easily lead...

Batterers aren’t renowned for taking responsibility for their abusiveness, Sam. They tend to shed blame like a snake molts.

The survivor movements were also challenging the notion of a dysfunctional family as the cause and culture of abuse, rather than being one of the many places where abuse nested. This notion, which in the...

It is necessary to make this point in answer to the `iatrogenic’ theory that the unveiling of repressed memories in MPD sufferers, paranoids and schizophrenics can be created in analysis; a fabrication of the doctor—patient...

How everyone is struggling for something. Trying to keep the balance. Struggling to find their way back. Doing the best they can with what they’ve been dealt. Staying in place, doing anything to keep from...

I know who you are…I’ve fallen hard for that person, and I sure as hell am not going to let you fade into your past.

When trauma involves intentional harm, such as in a crime or abuse, trust can totally collapse.

When a man strikes another man, he better have a good reason. There is never a good reason for a man to strike a woman.

The programme into which Cheryl was inducted combined all the different ways the intelligence community had learned could cause intense psychological change in adults and children. It had been learned through the use of both...

The National Security Agency’s capability at any time could be turned around on the American people, and no American would have any privacy left, such is the capability to monitor everything: telephone conversations, telegrams, it...

power happily walks hand in hand with abuse

A man who does not abuse is considered sterile socially.

A man’s strength was supposed to be against the outside world: to fight it back from himself and those he took under his protection: his wife, his children, and for a man strong enough, more...

If you have survived an abuser, and you tried to make things right… If you forgave, and you struggled, and even if the expression of your grief and your anger tumbled out at times in...

Eating disorders are prevalent among women who were sexually abused as children. They seem to have components of other symptoms such as obsessions, compulsions, avoidance of food, and anxiety, and they primarily include a distorted...

As I have explained in earlier chapters, abusiveness has little to do with psychological problems and everything to do with values and beliefs. Where do a boy’s values about partner relationships come from? The sources...

The central attitudes driving Rambo are:Strength and aggressiveness are good; compassion and conflict resolution are bad.Anything that could be even remotely associated with homosexuality, including walking away from possible violence or showing any fear or...

i sometimes felt as if these marks on my body were a kind of code, which blossomed, then faded, like invisible ink held to a candle. But if they were a code, who held the...

Power without abuse loses its charm

Imagining that you are deep and complex, but others are simple, is one of the primary signs of malignant selfishness.