Ben let a slow smile play over his face. He loved this part. It always felt like revealing to a disbeliever that he had magical powers or something.

Did you just tell us you’re gay?” Asks Nick”Yes.””Okay,” he says. Abby swats him. “What?””That’s all you’re going to say? Okay?””He said not to make a big deal out of it,” Nick says. “What am I supposed to say?””Say something supportive. I don’t know. Or awkwardly hold his hand like I did. Anything”Nick and I...

The silence was pregnant with noise, with muted fury, with questions the father found too disgusting to frame and with answers to which the son was incapable of giving voice.

Most of us can’t help but live as though we’ve got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But there’s only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a...

If she understood the difference between referring to me as “the gay guy” and using my name, the knowledge was lost between her vapid gaze and her single AAA-battery brain.

Every single courageous act of coming out chips away at the curse of homophobia. Most importantly it’s destroyed within yourself, and that act creates the potential for its destruction where it exists in friends, family and society.

I quit eating meat in 1976, the same year I turned fifteen, came out, and went to my first gay rights rally (not in that order). When I say that I ‘came out,’ I mean that I resolved to never lie about my love for women, never deliberately pass for straight, and never deny a...

Most straight people, and many gay people, especially those who came of age more recently, don’t understand how momentous and difficult coming out was to men and women of this generation. It seems so obvious now, so banal.

Every gay person must come out. As difficult as it is, you must tell your immediate family. You must tell your relatives. You must tell your friends if indeed they are your friends. You must tell the people you work with. You must tell the people in the stores you shop in. Once they realize...

There are those from religious backgrounds who resist and oppose LGBT equality; some very obsessively and publicly. They make bold accusations and negative statements about gay and lesbian people, their supposed “lifestyle” and relationships. But when a son, daughter, brother, sister or close friend comes out it is no longer an “issue” it becomes a...

Indeed, organizing atheists has been compared to herding cats, because they tend to think independently and will not conform to authority. But a good first step would be to build up a critical mass of those willing to ‘come out,’ thereby encouraging others to do so. Even if they can’t be herded, cats in sufficient...

But thats their image of us so we stay tense, holding our breath, hoping we wont be found out. – about being gay from the film Love My Life

Burst down those closet doors once and for all, and stand up and start to fight.

If you are in the closet and fall in love with someone of the same gender, it doesn’t automatically remove the shame and fear that’s kept you locked away. The love you are experiencing encourages you to face the reality that this is who you really are and also has the power to set you...

The world is so obsessed with defining sexuality for everyone and attaching labels to it. Any time any person openly leaves the sexual norm, their sexuality becomes, more often than not, the absolute defining characteristic of that person. It becomes the first thing people think about and often the first thing they mention. Every other...

So he was queer, E.M. Forster. It wasn’t his middle name (that would be ‘Morgan’), but it was his orientation, his romping pleasure, his half-secret, his romantic passion. In the long-suppressed novel Maurice the title character blurts out his truth, ‘I’m an unspeakable of the Oscar Wilde sort.’ It must have felt that way when...

Make no mistake, hiding one’s true self away in a closet and creating a facade of heterosexuality is not without its consequences. It may appear to have a degree of safety but from my experience they are very unhealthy places and do all kinds of terrible things to individuals psychologically, emotionally and behaviourally…..to say nothing...

At the border of where I will literally not survive so long as I keep living in so much fear of the harsh judgments of others, I am finally conceding the truth to you all.I am finally conceding the truth to me.I am something other than straight.

I think the skin revolution for women, I will call it, really all started with Mariah Carey. Madonna was pretty risqué too, but she was pretty much always known as a “bad girl.” Mariah was a good girl, supposedly Christian, turning very bad, in the late 90’s. So then, all the other little girls and...

Come out of the closet already. It’s so bright and wonderful out here. Dude, I’ve seen Brokeback Mountain too, don’t believe that bullshit. No one cares who you fuck…ya know…like you tell me every. Single. Day. Of. My. Life,” Day said exaggeratedly.

If only I could change the world around me, perhaps my truth won’t one day be the end of me.

Once,” Fran says, settling against the worktable, folding her arms, “I knew this kid who very bravely and bossily came out of the closet when she was only fourteen years old. She told me then that we can’t choose who we love. We just love the people we love, no mattter what anyone else might...

What’s that you’re holding?” he asked, noticing the pamphlet, still rolled up in her left hand. “Oh, this?” She held it up. “How to Come Out to Your Parents.”He widened his eyes. “Something you want to tell me?””It’s not for me. It’s for you.” She handed it to him.”I don’t have to come out to...

Make life easier for those around you, not harder.Every person you know is fighting their own great battle. Few of us ever know what those battles entail, and so often we say and do things that push others deeper and harder into the front lines of those battles. I know such has been the relentless...

I reached for his other hand, which he quickly accepted and I pulled him up into a hug. I didn’t know what the other kids in the room were thinking or saying or doing. And I didn’t care. I had Jamie in my arms, and that was all the mattered.

Clary- “How to Come Out to Your Parents,” she read out loud. “LUKE. Don’t be ridiculous. Simon’s not gay, he’s a vampire.

For twenty-one years, I have been paralyzed by the fear of what this society will do with me if they ever were to know of the thoughts that I continually push away. For more than two decades, I have made a choice to be straight. After all, it’s as easy as making a choice, isn’t...

This is our big chance to see what people think of us. The real us. We have to show em there’s nothing to be afraid of. If we don’t get over our fears, they never will.

Mamá, tengo algo que decirte. Soy un no muerto. Ahora bien, ya sé que tal vez tengas algunas ideas preconcebidas sobre los no muertos. Sé que puede que no te sientas a gusto con la idea de que yo sea un no muerto. Pero estoy aquí para decirte que los no puertos son como tú...

I don’t want anyone to hold back who they are. It’s not okay… it’s not a good thing

There comes a time in a girl’s life where she finds her heart broken, what matters is not the boy who broke it but the boy who stitches it back together

Isabelle snorted. ‘All the boys are gay. In this truck, anyway. Well, not you, Simon.”You noticed’ said Simon.’I think of myself as a freewheeling bisexual,’ added Magnus.’Please never say those words in front of my parents,’ said Alec. ‘Especially my father.”I thought your parents were okay with you, you know, coming out,’ Simon said, leaning...

It’s okay. It may not seem like it right now, but you are going to be fine. I know it’s scary, but don’t be afraid. You are who you are, and you should love that person, and I don’t want anyone to have to go through 22 years of their life afraid to accept that.

I know I can’t tell you what it’s like to be gay. But I can tell you what it’s not. It’s not hiding behind words, Mama. Like family and decency and Christianity.

I don’t get as much fan mail as an actor or singer would, but when I get a letter 99% of the time it’s pointing out something that really had an impact. Like after ‘My Own Private Rodeo’ all these people wrote to me and said Dale’s dad inspired them to come out. And this...

If there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others forget us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out so much of...