You survived by seizing every tiny drop of love you could find anywhere, and milking it, relishing it, for all it was worth. And as you grew up, you sought love, anywhere you could find...

Imagining that you are deep and complex, but others are simple, is one of the primary signs of malignant selfishness.

It is as if my life were magically run by two electric currents: joyous positive and despairing negative–which ever is running at the moment dominates my life, floods it.

No neurotic harbors thoughts of suicide which are not murderous impulses against others redirected upon himself.

DBT’s catchphrase of developing a life worth living means you’re not just surviving; rather, you have good reasons for living. I’m also getting better at keeping another dialectic in mind: On the one hand, the...

Owing to a poorly defined sense of self, people with BPD rely on others for their feelings of worth and emotional caretaking. So fearful are they of feeling alone that they may act in desperate...

Certainly, it’s important to acknowledge and identify the effects of BPD on your life. It’s equally important to realize that it neither dictates who you are nor fixes your destiny.

It’s not about blame or wallowing…you are all molded by so much more than a dysfunctional past, and you must ultimately take responsibility for creating the life you want.

Tempting as it may be to draw one conclusion or another from my story and universalize it to apply to another’s experience, it is not my intention for my book to be seen as some...

I couldn’t trust my own emotions. Which emotional reactions were justified, if any? And which ones were tainted by the mental illness of BPD? I found myself fiercely guarding and limiting my emotional reactions, chastising...