It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the lover.

Huddled in her mink in the Kansas City airport, she had a vision of women writing about sex as openly as male writers, but quite, quite differently. Some women would treat sex much as men...

My strength and my weakness are twins in the same womb.

This life is a war we are not yet winning for our daughters’ children./ Don’t do your enemies’ work for them./ Finish your own.

We can only know what we can truly imagine. Finally what we see comes from ourselves.

Long hair is considered bohemian, which may be why I grew it, but I keep it long because I love the way it feels, part cloak, part fan, part mane, part security blanket

Never doubt that you can change history. You already have.

You crit me justly, Connie. Forgive me. I’ll try to see your situation more clearly and make less loud noises in your ears.

All women are misfits. We do not fit into this world without amputations.

The pitcher cries for water to carry and a person for work that is real.

An new idea is rarely born like Venus attended by graces. More commonly it’s modeled of baling wire and acne. More commonly it wheezes and tips over.

Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third

A new idea is rarely born like Venus attended by graces/ More commonly it’s modeled of baling wire and acne./ More commonly it wheezes and tips over.

If I die this instant will you be more content with the morning news? Will your coffee taste better? I am not your fate. I am not your government…I am not your mother, not your...

It you want to be listened to, you should put in time listening

Burning dinner is not incompetence but war.

The societies kids naturally form are tribal. Gangs, clubs, packs. But we’re herded into schools and terrified into behaving. Taught how we’re supposed to pretend to be, taught to parrot all kinds of nonsense at...

Shared laughter is erotic too

The real writer is one who really writes. Talent is an invention like phlogiston after the fact of fire. Work is its own cure. You have to like it better than being loved.

If you want to be listened to, you should put in time listening.

Shall I tell you something I’ve been noticing? The mistrust this society has for women. All kinds of experts and officials are terrified because so many women are working. They really think that women have...

A strong woman is a woman determined to do something others are determined not be done.

Writing sometimes feels frivolous and sometimes sacred, but memory is one of my strongest muses. I serve her with my words. So long as people read, those we love survive however evanescently. As do we...

Shared laughter is erotic too.

Nobody hates us as ourselves. In their minds we’re not human… They don’t hate us because we did something or said something. They make us stand for an evil they invent and then they want...

When I work I am pure as an angel tiger and clear is my eye and hot my brain and silent all the whining grunting piglets of the appetites.

In fiction, I exercise my nosiness. I am as curious as my cats, and indeed that has led to trouble often enough and used up several of my nine lives. I am an avid listener....

No, It’s not fair. But I was thinking more along the lines of the Pentagon and Washington itself. Sometimes I suspect that those who are running things might grow addicted to power. Secrecy’s essential in...

Burning dinner is not incompetence but war

To Have Without Holding:Learning to love differently is hard,love with the hands wide open, lovewith the doors banging on their hinges,the cupboard unlocked, the windroaring and whimpering in the roomsrustling the sheets and snapping the...

Something like that. He’s our man.

Sleeping together is a euphemism for people, but tantamount to marriage with cats.

If what we change does not change us, we are playing with blocks.

Love as if you liked yourself, and it may happen.