All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.

Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware...

Now, with regard to the people who have done things we call “terrorism,” I’m confident they have been expressing their pain in many different ways for thirty years or more. Instead of our empathically receiving...

You can’t make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn’t made them wish they had.

Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.