The practice of giving an A transports your relationships from the world of measurement into the universe of possibility… This A is not an expectation to live up to, but a possibility to live into.

…how absurd human beings are and how magnificent.

In the measurement world, you set a goal and strive for it. In the universe of possibility, you set the context and let life unfold.

How often do we stand convinced of the truth of our early memories, forgetting that they are assessments made by a child? We can replace the narratives that hold us back by inventing wiser stories,...

Mistakes can be like ice. If we resist them, we may keep on slipping into a posture of defeat. If we include mistakes in our definition of performance, we are likely to glide through them...

I settled on a game called I am a contribution. Unlike success and failure, contribution has no other side. It is not arrived at by comparison.

…the player who looks least engaged may be the most committed member of the group. A cynic, after all, is a passionate person who does not want to be disappointed again.

He had realized that the labels he had been taking so seriously are human inventions–it’s all a game. The Number 68 is invented and the A is invented, so we might as well choose to...