It is not unreasonable to want repentance from a wrongdoer before forgiving that wrongdoer, since, in the absence of repentance, hasty forgiveness may harm both the forgiver and the wrongdoer. The forgiver may be harmed...

One great help here – and I make no claim that it is the only help or even a necessary condition for forgiveness – is sincere repentance on the part of the wrongdoer. When I...