My research found that the No. 1 time waster was doing too much at once.

Part of a rut is a routine, and a routine is not a negative; it can be positive and be comforting.

But too much routine — if you’re not getting from that routine what you need and want — that’s when it can become a rut.

The more you pick something that’s a true interest, the more likely you’re going to bond through that interest. The friendship stuff will come out of that. It’s something you want to do anyway, so...